I'm a wee bit confused here, could somebody help me figure out why a person...?

I wasn't trying to piss you off... I do not agree with your idea of a healthy relationship, just like you don't agree with me giving my kid juicy juice... You live a life that you find normal, that most do not find normal... That doesn't mean you are right or wrong, but you don't have to defend it either. Just don't get too upset if someone doesn't agree with it.